One of the most difficult jobs in the world is not the one anyone has a degree in but something we all have to do i.e. Parenting. Nobody teaches you how to be a good parent, what things you are supposed to do and what things you aren't, how to make difficult decisions when it comes to your child and how to not seem too controlling like our own parents used to.
Most of the people have this fear that they might end up being an over-protective parent that will drive their kids away from them.
When we don't know something, the first thing we do now is- look it up on Google. Well, if you're a parent or going to be one, one of the crucial steps is to decide- which parenting style are you following and how does it affect your child?
There are 4 parenting styles, to begin with,
1. Authoritarian Parents are more controlling and aggressive in implementing rules in their child's life than the other types. This parenting style doesn't give any flexibility to the child. Authoritarian parent believes in strict punishment, that a child should learn a lesson from his/her mistakes and there is not much communication between the child and the parent.
Authoritarian Parent always makes sure that they appear as the in-charge in front of their kids so that they kids would fear them, listen to them and treat them with utmost respect them.
2. Uninvolved Parenting style: As the name suggests, uninvolved parents are those who not communicate with their child and prefer to stay out of their life completely. There is no communication between the parent and the child, and the parent is always either absent from their child's life or is uninterested in it.
They are neglectful to not only the emotional and physical needs of their child but also their safety and care. They try to find excuses to stay away from their child and the child is left on its own.
3. Permissive parenting style provides maximum comfort to their child and is more inclined towards being their child's best friend than a parent. In this parenting style, it is very difficult to teach the child about rules, regulations and the consequences of their actions, and the child often turns out to be dependent on their parents, extremely pampered and sensitive.Permissive parents prefer bribing their child rather than using some authority to teach them or get some work done that the child should know how to do on their own. This parenting style gives very less space for the child to grow on their own and becomes independent because of the leniency provided by their parents at home.
4. Authoritative Parenting style is considered to be the best parenting style because of the flexibility and the independence it gives to the child. While an Authoritarian parent would not be lenient and open with their child, an Authoritative parent is strict but understanding, cooperative and gives flexibility to the child.
This parenting style is more inclined towards making the child more responsible from an early age itself as an Authoritative parent does make sure their child learns from their mistakes but not in a way that they are forced to do something or get strict punishment for.
Authoritative parents have clear standards, are responsive and while they are assertive, they adopt a democratic way of doing things. So, the parent and the child can respect each other and the child also listens to their parent out of respect, not fear.
While it is important to be your child's best friend, have a good relationship and a warmth between the two, it is also important to make sure your child is able to learn, grow and become wise with age. Being too strict or too lenient will result in shaping the habits and life of the child, for which no one but the parents can be held responsible for.
In the next article, we'll share how different styles of parenting mould the life and personality of the child.